Online dating is not a contest
Ironically enough, if you could take the best of those women and the best of those men, and place them in a big room where they could sit at a table and ask each other questions in person – you’d probably have 4 or 5 new match-ups by the end of the night. All they have to do is get online every day, sitting on their princess throne and file through the dozens or more profiles of men who have messaged them throughout the day.
The problem with online dating is that you can’t see the person’s face when they’re telling you about themselves. I think it’s hard for guys to comprehend the world of online dating from a woman’s perspective. They then flippantly toss out all of those well thought out, carefully crafted messages from most of those poor schmucks, and then they log onto their Facebook accounts to complain to their girlfriends that there are no “good men” left in the world.
You can’t watch as they smile, and that smile spreads up into their eyes and transforms their face into one of the most beautiful things you’ve ever seen – a thing that warms your heart and makes you realize you want to spend more time with the person. Unfortunately, the reality is nowhere near that fantasy.
To get some insight into what women go through on these dating websites, I pulled aside one of my family members who I knew had spent some time on these sites looking for her future spouse.
So when Christian Mingle asked me to fill out what I thought being a Christian means in my bio, I immediately thought of Christmas and filled that in.
I didn’t think I’d have much luck on a site that asked me for my favorite Bible passage.
You get a response every now and again, but rarely from anyone you actually want to date.
For many business owners, “marketing” is a dirty word.
You hate self-promotion and don’t want to be pushy.
And you’re not into cold hard data and analytics – you’re passionate about what you do. It’s not about being pushy with people who have no interest in what you do.
You’d rather connect with other people who are also passionate, understanding, and excited about what you have to offer – people who love what you do, and are truly interested in supporting your business. It’s not endlessly talking about yourself without listening to your audience, and it’s not all about numbers and data and analytics.